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Grant Desme and the Seminary

I feel that I should contribute something from my area of what some might call expertise, having been in seminary formation myself and expecting to work in it in the future. 

Today, prospect Grant Desme of the Oakland Athletics retired from baseball in order to pursue a call to the Catholic priesthood.

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For Oakland, this means the loss of a former second round pick: hard to swallow but hardly devastating.  I'll leave most of the analysis to others, but I will say that Desme is not expected to be a superstar

As for Desme, he is leaving a game that I assume he loves very much in order to pursue a calling from God.  That is no small statement.  When I was in college, I was interviewing a priest for a journalism class and asked of him: "What advice would you give guy who was considering the priesthood?" He responded, "Every guy should be considering the priesthood."  This blew my mind.  It had never occurred to me that God is calling all of us to a certain way of life and service, and that plan would be far greater than any one that we ourselves could devise.  Within a year (and due to many other factors), I was entering the seminary, ready to give my entire life to service within the Church.  We all have choices and sacrifices to make in our lives, but God is truly trying to guide us through them.

This is what this all boils down to: Grant Desme has not made a career choice but a life choice.  He himself says,

I had to get down to the bottom of things, to what was good in my life, what I wanted to do with my life.... It took awhile to trust that and open up to it and aim full steam toward him.

He wants to be a part of something greater than himself.  Perhaps baseball was an expression of that desire, but he now believes that this desire has actually been trying to draw him into something else.  He is discovering who he truly is.  All people need to do this at some time in their lives.  He will continue to discover himself more and more through seminary formation.  Perhaps he will persevere to ordination, perhaps he will not.  There are no guarantees in becoming a priest.  Roughly three-fourths of all men who enter seminary formation leave before becoming a priest.  Some leave the seminary bitter, angry, or unhappy, but most of those who leave do so knowing that they have lived a truer life because they sacrificed things to seek God and his will.  They have had the opportunity to get know themselves and God to a greater degree than they did before because they approached formation with an open heart and strong fervor.  And they will put the knowledge and skills that they gained and developed to use in the world in some other means.  They haven't given up on their calling.  They are still pursuing it.

Of course, this likely spells the end of Desme's baseball career.  Having little to no college education, he has roughly eight years of discernment before ordination.  (One article said ten years, but it should not take that long.  If he has any usable credits it could come down as far as six.)  Should he enter seminary and decide to leave rather quickly, he may be able to salvage something.  But he is willing to give the game up for something he sees as more important. "Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me.  For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it. What profit would there be for one to gain the whole world and forfeit his life? Or what can one give in exchange for his life?" (Matthew 16: 24-26) I applaud him for doing so and will pray for his discernment.  He will be under a lot of pressure to leave and return to baseball, as well as pressure to be ordained because he gave up such a high-profile lifestyle for something that is not guaranteed.  It's funny.  I haven't been in the monastery for a great length of time (I'm still in my twenties), and I occasionally think about attending an open try-out to give baseball a try.  (Of course, anyone who knows me is laughing hysterically right now because I am a terrible baseball player.  I was a decent athlete, and baseball is the sport I would most love to continue playing, but it was never going to happen.)  Now Grant is leaving the game for a life similar to mine.  That's why God gives us so much fervor in the early stages.  We would never make it otherwise. 

If anyone has any questions about seminary, I would be happy to try answering them.  For those of you who think Grant is a fool, even if you don't believe in God, consider this: Would Grant--who believes very strongly in a God who is active in the world--be happy if he didn't pursue what he sees as his true life? It is a heavy burden to live in a way contrary to how you see yourself.  "The truth will set you free." (John 8:32)  May Grant open his heart to God's love and find what he is truly called to be and to do. 

"I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and your joy may be complete.... It was not you who chose me, but I who chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit that will remain."  ~  John 15: 11, 16

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You make some valid points

I doubt anyone would be very happy if they lead their life in a way contrary to how they think they should. At the same time, the fact that Grant perceives the world in a certain way doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with how the world actually is or how it should be perceived by anyone else. I grew up Southern Baptist and for awhile I considered going to seminary as well. However, there came a time in my life where I could no longer resolve my faith with what I see as the reality of the world around me. I suppose you could call it a deconversion. My point is that my experience is no less valid than Grant’s and his no less than mine. In a practical sense, neither one really matters much unless you are a good friend of one of us.

By your tone, I can tell that your post was likely written out of a genuine concern for the well-being of Royals Review’s readers’ souls/lives. I appreciate that you care about such things, but at the same time I generally find unprompted religious posts like this one to be misplaced at best. I don’t intend to tell anyone how to live or what to believe, but I would prefer to not find posts like this on Royals Review. I feel like there are plenty of other forums where such discussion would be more welcome, but I can only speak for myself.

by KCBear on Jan 22, 2010 9:40 PM EST reply actions  

I knew that writing this would not be appreciated by all members of the board.

What I hear you say is that no one should comment on his/her own beliefs or those of others on a website dedicated to sports commentary. However, considering this is a topic concerns an athlete and his faith and since this topic already has one fanshot on which people have made such comments (albeit, considerably shorter than my own), I thought it would be an appropriate subject of discourse. My intention was to clarify some aspects of Grant Desme’s decision from the perspective of one who has experienced something similar and made a lifetime commitment to it. In the course of doing so, I admit that my language became persuasive in tone, which is beyond the scope in informing, but I do not think that I could help anyone perceive what I have tried to convey without showing my own personal devotion because I believe that such devotion is at the heart of Desme’s action. Should others feel that this post does not belong on this forum, it can certainly be removed. Whatever happens, my offer to answer any questions remains on the table.

by BrRoyal on Jan 22, 2010 10:17 PM EST up reply actions  

You touched on eaxactly what I was getting at.

I felt like the post turned into evangelizing, but as I said before, I clearly don’t speak for everyone.

by KCBear on Jan 23, 2010 1:08 AM EST up reply actions  

Fuck That! Any

Topic is fair game, especially in January. We have moderators who will take care of what they view as inappropriate here. The Desme story makes this at least tangentially baseball related. I am certainly not a Christian, and maybe an agnostic at best, but genuine beliefs of others are a legitimate point of discussion.

Wouldn’t all men entering Seminary result in the extinction of the human race? Just thinkin’ again…..

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by philofthenorth on Jan 22, 2010 10:19 PM EST up reply actions  

I have no problem with the post either.

It does relate to a relevant baseball topic and BrRoyal is simply giving his viewpoint. It’s easy enough to click off of if someone finds it inappropriate.

by hunter s. royal on Jan 22, 2010 11:26 PM EST up reply actions  

I didn't find it inappropriate

I thought it was more annoying than anything. A few too many bible verses for my taste, but I certainly don’t decide that for anyone else.

by KCBear on Jan 23, 2010 1:18 AM EST up reply actions  

I thought the post was fair enough

since it was on a baseball-related topic that has sparked a lot of discussion. The perspective of someone committed to the priesthood is different from most of ours, and therefore interesting. And that perspective is naturally going to be filled with Christian ideas, since a priest or seminarian is focused first on God and second on everything else.

That said, this is a baseball message board, unless RR chooses to throw out a “discuss among yourselves” topic, and not a political or religious one. It’s a good idea to keep politics and religion at the periphery, since obviously each of our views is quite different, and we don’t want such discussion to replace our complaining about how dumb Treyton are.

I don’t remember BrRoyal as having evangelized before. I would recommend that he doesn’t do it any more, unless there’s another baseball-religion topic that comes up. I’m sure he won’t, since he’s shown restraint in the past.

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by Juancho on Jan 23, 2010 6:13 AM EST up reply actions  

Nice article

Was a rewarding read. Grant Desme I think was the MVP of the Arizona Fall League this year. But like you said, he was never really destined for stardom in MLB

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by RoyalJHWKR on Jan 22, 2010 11:14 PM EST reply actions  

Thanks for posting this

Your insights are much appreciated. I admire Desme’s willingness to “answer the call” in a world that these days does little to encourage such a decision.

by cookierojas73 on Jan 22, 2010 11:18 PM EST reply actions  

What does it entail?

It strikes me that devoting up to 10 years of your life to studying theology is such a waste. I’m a Geologist, so i’m biased, but the Earth is such a stunningly wonderful place. The process and timescales of it’s formation are truly mindblowing in their power. Why would anyone not want to explore that, and to understand how it came to be in a far more meaningful and fulfilling way than just chalking it up to God.

by kcbottom9th on Jan 22, 2010 11:33 PM EST reply actions  

a chunk of it is training

and a chunk of it is basically being a priest intern

sorta like being a doctor, the last third of it, or more, you’re basically already doing priest stuff, its just part of the training process

by Freneau on Jan 23, 2010 12:03 AM EST up reply actions  

This is very true

Looking back, I consider my undergraduate degree (albeit from a secular private university) in religious studies and classical studies as a significant part of my formation. And that background has made my graduate-level Bible and history classes far easier. Without that background, I probably wouldn’t be able to finish seminary with just three years of classes.

by DarthYoshi on Jan 24, 2010 5:07 PM EST up reply actions  

The first part of the training is actually in philosophy.

All seminarians are required to have at least 30 credit hours of philosophy, including some particular courses, before they continue in theology. This is why some people get through faster than others since some already have a philosophy background. Theology normally takes four years of study. Included in that is more pastoral training as well. The minimum timeframe is six years, which is more about discernment, self-awareness, and pastoral training than education. If it were simply about getting through the classes, it would be much shorter.

by BrRoyal on Jan 23, 2010 8:12 AM EST up reply actions  

1) Geology and theology aren’t incompatiable

2) Theology doesn’t simply “chalk it up to God” any more than Geology chalks sociology “up to rocks.”

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by Matt Klaassen on Jan 23, 2010 9:23 AM EST up reply actions  

They are not incompatible most of the time

Although they are when the sect of Christianity you were bought up in is 7th Day Adventism (like myself).

And a Geologist wouldn’t chalk it up to rocks. They would seek the physical answers as to why those rocks came to be. Ultimately you get caught in an infinite regress, where you can’t go back any further. The religous mind terminates that regression with God. I just find that a deeply unsatisfying solution.

by kcbottom9th on Jan 23, 2010 10:53 AM EST up reply actions  

That's why many Christians find creation (not creationism) so fascinating.
the Earth is such a stunningly wonderful place. The process and timescales of it’s formation are truly mindblowing in their power. Why would anyone not want to explore that, and to understand how it came to be in a far more meaningful and fulfilling way than just chalking it up to God.

They see God’s action all around them and appreciate what he has given to us.

by BrRoyal on Jan 23, 2010 11:20 AM EST up reply actions  

I think one difference might be that

a geologist would say something like: “We don’t know how this rock/mountain was created, but this is what we do know and we are continuing to search for more knowledge”, whereas a lot of “religious” students I teach are satisfied with “God did it” and that is the end of their curious investigation into the unknown. I find that unsatisfying.

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by buddyball on Jan 23, 2010 12:07 PM EST up reply actions  

There is a difference between a student who is "religious" and someone who studies theology

Theology, just like any other field of study, is driven by wonder, not its absence.

Associating anyone who studies theology with religious dogmatists is like associating all nonbelievers with Bil Maher or Christopher Hitchens.

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by Matt Klaassen on Jan 23, 2010 12:21 PM EST up reply actions  

well, I wasn't talking about theologists

rather maybe what one could call “lazy thinkers”

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by buddyball on Jan 23, 2010 1:32 PM EST up reply actions  

I simply think that people have different interests.

There are definitely “lazy thinkers” or even non-thinkers out there who contribute far less than they are capable to society and the world (though few people could be considered to contribute to the fullness of their potential). On the other hand, I don’t think we can expect everyone to delve into the details of every educational field. Some find science interesting while others prefer literature. It’s fine that you are unsatisfied with that. That’s part of the beauty of being human: you’re going to have closer connections with certain people which make spending time with them more satisfying.

by BrRoyal on Jan 23, 2010 1:52 PM EST up reply actions  

do you mean like Royals fans?

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by buddyball on Jan 23, 2010 2:11 PM EST up reply actions  

Exactly

And while I don’t expect others to be Royals fans, I know that I have a special gift (. . . that doesn’t often make me happy).

by BrRoyal on Jan 23, 2010 4:40 PM EST up reply actions   1 recs

Nicely put.

My dad went to seminary for a year-and-a-half – obviously he changed his mind :) . Actually I don’t know how much he was ever into it, but it was an option, one that his mom supported I’m sure, so he tried it. When I was in college and (finally) decided to get confirmed, our class leader was a guy who had been a successful Wall Street type into his 50s, but was always unsatisfied and finally decided to pursue a different path and become a monk. Definitely the right guy to lead a class of college kids getting confirmed, or at least he was the perfect leader for me to help me through the process of committing to something I had been waivering on for several years at that point.

We all take different paths to get where we’re going, and just because we try different things doesn’t mean they’ll all stick, but they all add something valuable to us. Certainly that’s what your twenties are for! Actually I’m 34 and I don’t feel like I have figured out much more than when I was 24, but I’ve tried a few more things on my list and added a bunch more that I want to try. And actually I’m being a little facetious – while it’s true I’m practically back to square one on my career stuff, I’ve figured out a lot of other important stuff along the way.

Either way, power to Desme to pursue the next thing on his list.

by Gross(est) on Jan 23, 2010 5:19 PM EST up reply actions  

in my experience, nothing could be further from the truth about religious folks

Even strict creationists are very concerned with how “God did it” (ie, are the six days of creation literally six days or a metaphor, what about flood theology and young earth creationism, etc.) I may vehemently disagree many things creationists believe, but many of them hold their views just as strongly and will work just as hard to back them up.

by DarthYoshi on Jan 25, 2010 1:35 AM EST up reply actions  

Then why the backlash even now against evolution being taught in schools?

I find it hard to believe that Creationists have to take the creation story literally for it to work. Evolution can’t be the mechanism through which God’s plan takes shape? The Bible is full of parables and metaphor, why does it have to be literal at this point? I mean, it’s not like the people would understand the real creation story from a scientific standpoint back when it was written, or really even now. It gets weird even trying to grasp the grand distances and time scales of the universe. Then you throw the theory of relativity in there, and the fact that there isn’t enough mass in the universe to accelerate a single human to the speed of light, and this stuff just blows your mind. God is incomprehensible, but it doesn’t hurt to try and understand his creations. Unfortunately, I’ve been exposed to too many people that think it does.

by AxDxMx on Jan 25, 2010 2:55 AM EST up reply actions  

I think the issue with evolution applies to humans.

Did we evolve from apes/monkeys? I can’t say. If God created humanity in his image and likeness, how to apes/monkeys fit into that?

by BrRoyal on Jan 25, 2010 7:15 AM EST up reply actions  

i'm going to speak out of ignorance

of what’s in the bible… but it depends on if humanity is humankind or the humanity of humankind. I want my daughter to have similar values to me when she grows up. So I’m molding her in that direction: in my image (I have an image of what I should act like, and I want her to try to act like that too), and my likeness (since I try to act in my image… I want her to act like me). But, I know next to nothing about the stories in the bible. So maybe it clearly says what’s what.

Now, as far as the creation of humans and how apes fit in… maybe God has this really big jar of clay… maybe he started with apes/monkeys (or whatever before them) as a prototype mold. And as he got better at molding, he guided monkeys to evolve into Adam and Eve. Although, since he made a man first, Adam was sexing up lady hominids to create more humans??? No one wants to think about that stuff. So we invent Eve for the purpose of comfort. Or maybe he got the mold right one day and then just dropped humans on earth. I have no idea, but I’m leaning towards Adam being a lady ape man.

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by KC Chris on Jan 25, 2010 10:14 AM EST up reply actions  

The new problem is that now God gets better at something.

Theologically, God is unchanging and perfect and, therefore, cannot improve or get better.

by BrRoyal on Jan 25, 2010 2:53 PM EST up reply actions  

OK.

But maybe God knew the easiest way to make humans was make monkeys first. It’s not changing the plan if you intended to first make monkeys that would then evolve into humans.

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by KC Chris on Jan 25, 2010 3:23 PM EST up reply actions  

I guess if apes/monkeys = horrible, terrible creatures then I can see why the outrage

That’s the thing though, God didn’t start with apes/monkeys, what did they evolve from, and so on, down to the first organism that came to life (maybe God created that first organism?). If we take what science says about how the earth was probably created, even that process took millions of years, why would humans take any less time? If God is working on the time scales that science seems to say he does, basically God set the whole universe in motion and his plan was to give rise to humans as a favored species on a little planet called Earth somewhere in the backwater of the Milky Way Galaxy. If God is incomprehensible, what makes anyone think that they can comprehend his grand plan? It has nothing to do with apes/monkeys, it has everything to do with God is God and does whatever he wants and does not answer to humans. That being said, Creationists could be right because I don’t know God’s plan either, I just don’t get the point in arguing where we come from, as God can be injected into the narrative in both.

by AxDxMx on Jan 25, 2010 11:17 AM EST up reply actions  

An excellent point

Anyone can use God to back up anything they want to say. ’Tis very, very, true.

by DarthYoshi on Jan 25, 2010 11:48 AM EST up reply actions  

well, I would approach this from a scientific viewpoint

and one of the hardest things about science and the scientific method is that if you find evidence that your hypothesis is wrong (e.g. age of the Earth), no matter how much you like that hypothesis, you have to throw it out and go somewhere else. I wish GMDM would take this approach to building a major league ballclub.

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by buddyball on Jan 25, 2010 11:29 AM EST up reply actions  

This was a moronic comment

Becoming a priest in a lot of ways is like going to graduate school. Are you a PhD geologist?
If so, then good for you, but don’t insult the humanities. Are the formations, processes, and changes of the people on Earth less worth studying than something that could be summed up succinctly as (heat+pressure)/time? Using your method, I could chalk up geology to “soil erosion” or “glorified oil-drilling.” Don’t badmouth an academic subject you obviously have no understanding of.

I’m not particularly religious, but I see a big difference between becoming a priest and becoming a preacher at some sort of holy-rolling tabernacle. Despite their recent insane focus on the abortion question and alliance with the far right, there’s a lot that Catholics have added to higher education in America.

Also, the priesthood is shrinking (partly due to the Church’s unwillingness to accept married priests), and I would much prefer trying to keep a church as intellectually vibrant, committed to social justice, and historically relevant as Catholicism around than await the impending megachurch takeover. I’m happy for Desme.

by mikewormdog on Jan 23, 2010 7:21 PM EST up reply actions  

I wouldn't say that questioning the priorities and motivations of another is moronic.

We all have to do that to ourselves at times, and sometimes we need other to question them for us because we are too stubborn to look at ourselves humbly. We all tend to over-value our own personal fields (except for theologians, wink-wink) and fail to consider the perspectives of others.

by BrRoyal on Jan 23, 2010 7:59 PM EST up reply actions  

Indeed, thanks

I guess I feel strongly about this only because I took an opposite path. I was when I entered college the first time a cast iron devout 7th Day Adventist. It was only when I got out of small town Alberta (a conservative place) that I had my eyes opened that there was more to the world and life then what I had been bought up to believe.

I didn’t in any way intend that comment to be offensive in any way, and I apologize if it came across thusly.

by kcbottom9th on Jan 23, 2010 8:26 PM EST up reply actions  

You did refer to Desme's decision -

and the same decision made by thousands of other young men – as “such a waste.” I’m not sure how that’s not supposed to be offensive.

WTF, self?

by minda33 on Jan 23, 2010 8:54 PM EST up reply actions  

*shrugs*

I know I didn’t mean it as such. If you want to make out otherwise, fine.

by kcbottom9th on Jan 23, 2010 10:31 PM EST up reply actions  

My mother made a similar comment to a young monk of my (at the time, future) community after I told her I was considering entering the monastic life.

He was offended but held no grudge. They discussed a number of things about the monastic life and even got a little testy. Now the two of them always spend some time visiting together when my family is up to visit.

by BrRoyal on Jan 23, 2010 10:40 PM EST up reply actions  

I aways remember

that for a long time, most science was done by monks. In fact, some of the pioneering geophysical work in the U.S. has been done at schools like Boston College and St. Louis University. Nicholas Steno ended up being a bishop.

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by buddyball on Jan 23, 2010 10:59 PM EST up reply actions  

Indeed

Steno is the grandaddy. Geology as it exists as a science today largely started with him. And there remain of course many brilliant Geologists and Earth Scientists who are religous. As D-F rightly pointed out, the two are not incompatible. Unfortunately, you also get the Kurt Wise’s of the world. Thankfully, their voice isn’t much listened too.

by kcbottom9th on Jan 23, 2010 11:56 PM EST up reply actions  

This comment made me think immediately of my sister-in-law...

…who is both a geological engineer and a devout Roman Catholic.

It is bizarre that you assume a practicing Christian has no desire to explore scientific mysteries. Bizarre.

If you genuinely believe that Christian = incurious, maybe you should seriously consider reading some theology.

by kcemigre on Jan 25, 2010 1:06 PM EST up reply actions  

I never said that

The two are very compatible. My observation, and i hesitate to say this again because I DIDN’T intend to offend, was simply that devoting the next 6-10 years of your life to theological study is probably incompatible with at the same time studying something else of equal complexity in depth. That’s all. We all have different opinions on what is the more worthwile thing, that was my only point. My own view is that we should spend the small time we have in the sun to understand the planet we rent space on. Others will disagree, and that’s fine.

by kcbottom9th on Jan 25, 2010 1:50 PM EST up reply actions  

well...

In my own defense, I didn’t claim you said that, I said you assumed it.

In your defense, I will conceed that I may have misunderstood.

by kcemigre on Jan 25, 2010 2:24 PM EST up reply actions  

$10 says he always wanted to be a priest, but still like baseball

There is only a small time frame to be a baseball player physically, so he took a chance and seems he won’t make the majors. Now he is moving on.

I respect anyone doing something they love for a living, than someone doing a job just to take home more cash.

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by Jeff Zimmerman on Jan 22, 2010 11:41 PM EST reply actions  

hes a really good prospect though

he was absolutely going to make the majors…he was one of my favorite non royals prospects due to his nice blend of power and speed.

by wildthang on Jan 23, 2010 12:42 AM EST up reply actions  

he might have made the majors

but i feel like he was going to be nelson cruz (the younger version that couldn’t stick)

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by flipgatey3 on Jan 23, 2010 9:24 PM EST up reply actions  

As RR's other resident clergyman/seminarian...

I guess I should proably weigh in. :)

A year or two ago, Major League Soccer player Chase Hilgenbrink did the same thing as Desme—quitting the sport he was so talented at to pursue ordination. The Washington Post did a big human interest story, and a significant sentiment in the article was along the lines of, “why the hell would a pro athlete give that up to become a clergyman instead?” And the only really satisfactory answer to that is that someone felt such a need to devote their lives to ordained ministry, if only so that they could fall asleep at night without wondering “what if?”

So, more power to Desme for following where he believes his life is meant to go right now. The process of becoming a Protestant cleric is trying enough, but our formation is usually only ~4 years, as opposed to up to 8 for Catholic priests, and in my denomination, I am allowed to select which regions can consider me for local parishes, as opposed to having to go wherever you are sent. And, I can get married (at least in theory…probably not in actuality, but for reasons that have nothing to do with church doctrine :) ). It is not a process for the faint of heart, but that is partly by design.

If you are considering seminary, you should probably talk to BrRoyal instead of me—I’ll probably try to talk you out of it! (Actually, I won’t.) But may Desme’s story serve as an inspiration to all those wondering whether it is worth it for them to pursue whatever it is that they wish they could do the most in the world, for I can promise you, it absolutely, absolutely is. I gave up a lot to matriculate at seminary at the age of 22, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. And if you happen to not believe in God, hopefully you do believe in yourself!

And, if Desme ends up like Edward Norton in Keeping the Faith, it will completely be worth it.

“All things are possible for one who believes.” -Mark 9:23

by DarthYoshi on Jan 23, 2010 12:45 AM EST reply actions  

yes.

Actually, it was a fairly good representation of what most priests will go through at least once in their lifetimes.

by BrRoyal on Jan 23, 2010 8:17 AM EST up reply actions  

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by Matt Klaassen on Jan 23, 2010 9:24 AM EST up reply actions  

Alright, here's some of my seminary thoughts

I, too, am in seminary—a Protestant one—and have been a pastor up until this past year. I respect what Desme is doing and wish him the best. I must admit the idea of personal calling by an immanent deity sometimes seems absurd in this world (especially when things like Haiti happen) and yet some people are just drawn into seminary/ministry/theology (myself included).

By the way, let me take this opportunity to apologize for all the crap that folks do in the name of religion (and especially Christianity). It embarrasses and sickens many of us who believe in loving our neighbor.

by nwroyal on Jan 24, 2010 12:28 PM EST up reply actions  

sorry, nwroyal

didn’t know you were also in seminary, or I wouldn’t have referred to myself as the “other” RR seminarian/pastor. Who knew an online baseball blog would be such a happening place for men of the cloth?

While I feel very similarly as you about the ill shit Christians have done, both past and present, I have a lot of mixed feelings about apologizing for it right after disclosing my vocation. It is important to recognize and remember the awful stuff Christianity has been responsible for, but it feels kinda disempowering for me to be like, “Yeah, I’m a Christian cleric…and btw, I’m sorry for all the bad stuff my faith does.” I think one of the greatest apologies we both can offer is to use our faith to empower outsiders who might otherwise feel like God has abandoned them. I have apologized to friends of mine who have been hurt by organized Christianity in the past, but usually after they have known me for a while and they feel comfortable hearing God-talk from me.

That being said, one of the most powerful instances of religious reconciliation was when a practicing Catholic set up a “confessional booth” at Reed College in Portland (which is perpetually one of the “colleges that ignore God on a regular basis” in the Princeton Review), and instead of hearing confessions from everyone who stopped by, insisted on confessing the Church’s sins to all those who have ever been wounded by organized religion (and there are a great many for whom that is the case).

Keep preaching the truth of inclusion.

by DarthYoshi on Jan 24, 2010 4:57 PM EST up reply actions  

Rec'd + 1000

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by timlacy on Jan 24, 2010 7:51 PM EST up reply actions  

yeah, good point

perhaps a better way to phrase that would be “all the crap that folks do in the name of religion makes me just as sick as it does you”. I have found that disclosing my vocation is one of the biggest conversation killers in the world. A lot of folks have no idea how to respond to that—and are uncomfortable with it—so a ’disclaimer can help break the ice.

by nwroyal on Jan 24, 2010 11:16 PM EST up reply actions  

My experience has been the same

In fact, just the other day, I was out wine-tasting at a wine shop and was talking to a middle-aged couple who had introduced themselves to me. They asked me what I did. I told them. Their jaws scraped the floor (the funny thing is, people see pastors handle wine all the time in worship…just not outside of church :) ).

I usually tell folks like that something along the lines of that they can still talk to me about whatever they want, and to please know that I will try my absolute hardest not to judge them.

I will say that, other times, it can actually have a really neat effect on conversations (besides just ending them!).

by DarthYoshi on Jan 25, 2010 1:32 AM EST up reply actions  

Indeed. You can never totally anticipate the response.

Sometimes people close up when they discover who you are or see you in black. Sometimes they tell you very personal things even though you don’t know them at all.

by BrRoyal on Jan 25, 2010 7:18 AM EST up reply actions  

that says as much about the ignorance of the non-religious

as it does of the religious

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by Matt Klaassen on Jan 25, 2010 12:20 PM EST up reply actions  

I think it is more

That there is aura of “respect” around religion that doesn’t exist for other things. And that applies even if you yourself don’t believe. If someone tells you they are a communist/liberal/anarchist then if you disagree you have no issue jumping into debate with them. Someone tells you they are religious, then this idea that we have to “respect” those beliefs (as opposed to political ones, or others) that we have drummed into us from childhood take over.

Religion has a privileged position in discourse. At it’s root, it is exactly the same as any other philosophy that you hold, but it is unique in that it cannot be challenged. That can stifle conversation, because you don’t want to offend. I inadvertantly did it in this very thread, which kind of proves the point. You wouldn’t care if I said I thought your politics was all baloney, and there dozens of talk radio hosts who make their living doing just that. But people do take umbrage to he suggestion that another belief of theirs (a religious one) is. It’s just safer to avoid talking about it.

by kcbottom9th on Jan 25, 2010 12:43 PM EST up reply actions   1 recs

hmm... I think it cuts both ways

On one hand, it seemingly “insulates” religion from criticism in some circles,

On the other hand, it also tends to make it irrelevant to life, culture, etc.

An appropriate metaphor here might be embalming — the corpse is perserved, but still dead

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by Matt Klaassen on Jan 25, 2010 12:54 PM EST up reply actions  

Just for the record...

…I do not have this experience. I talk about religion and my own beliefs all the time, both with people who share my basic beliefs and with people who don’t.

by kcemigre on Jan 25, 2010 1:00 PM EST up reply actions  

I suppose it depends on your social circles

I’m in a field in which a recent survey showed a strong majority claiming to be atheist.

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by Matt Klaassen on Jan 25, 2010 1:06 PM EST up reply actions  

sabermetrics?

Glad I came, just wish I hadn't stayed so long.

by Warden11 on Jan 25, 2010 1:12 PM EST up reply actions  

sabermetric Royals fans

"Things could always be worse." - Buddy Bell

by buddyball on Jan 25, 2010 1:40 PM EST up reply actions   1 recs

except...

it would seem that sabermetric Royals fans have more need for God that most.

by kcemigre on Jan 25, 2010 3:29 PM EST up reply actions  

that is the ironic part

"Things could always be worse." - Buddy Bell

by buddyball on Jan 25, 2010 3:31 PM EST up reply actions  

I think that is kind of a stretch

At least in the US, religion has a huge influence on life and culture. Just look at gay marriage, abortion, and evolution in schools to name a few. There are countless great books that would be incomprehensible without extensive knowledge of the Bible, and religious imagery is still a large part of many serious films.

The extra “respect” religion gets might stifle conversation on occasion, but I’m not sure that’s the rule, and it definitely doesn’t hold true for American society as a whole.

by KCBear on Jan 25, 2010 4:25 PM EST up reply actions  

Sure, it's culturally influential

the comments to which I was responding were about personal interactions

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by Matt Klaassen on Jan 25, 2010 5:03 PM EST up reply actions  

this post is what I love about this site

you never quite know what you are going to get when you enter.

"Things could always be worse." - Buddy Bell

by buddyball on Jan 23, 2010 1:34 PM EST reply actions  

it's like a box of chocolates

that people will argue endlessly over

by marbotty on Jan 23, 2010 10:52 PM EST up reply actions  

I am as atheist as they come

But I applaud Desme for being taking a bold career move that will hopefully bring him closer to happiness and self-fulfillment. It can be very easy to do what everyone expects you to do. It is very hard to do what actually motivates you in life. I think a lot of us can relate to that.

And I’m willing to bet he can help far more people in the ministry than he ever could as a starting LF for Oakland. Best of luck to him.

And beautiful piece BRRoyal. I had no idea the drop-out rate of seminary was so high. My brother-in-law is considering going to seminary school, but the education requirements are pretty daunting to him.

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by RoyalsRetro on Jan 23, 2010 3:28 PM EST reply actions   1 recs

Thanks, Retro.

The dynamics of support are very interesting. For the most part, early on in seminary formation, the administration and other seminarians (as well as organizations within the Church) are very encouraging to those who waver, partially because of the high turn-over rate and partially because they have a number of years before any major decisions need to be made. Later on, people are still supportive, but someone who is wavering will be encouraged to take a year off in a ministerial setting, which will delay actual ordination, so that they don’t make a hasty decision. Of course, it doesn’t always take long to realize that some people don’t belong in the seminary.

by BrRoyal on Jan 23, 2010 4:45 PM EST up reply actions  

So Can We

Talk about Sarah Palin now?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iwkb9_zB2Pg&feature=related

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by philofthenorth on Jan 23, 2010 3:53 PM EST reply actions  

I was not offended by your post,

in fact, I rather enjoyed an “inside” perspective. I think the news item “legitimized” a theological/spiritual POV even on this site. Under normal circumstances, proselytizing (other than statistical proselytizing) is probably unwise in this venue but your post afforded insight and compassion.

by Steve Hovley on Jan 23, 2010 8:33 PM EST reply actions  

Trust me

I don’t come to RoyalsReview to talk Church. I come here to talk baseball. It just so happens that two of my favorite (and, thus, most frustrating) things came together in something fairly significant.

by BrRoyal on Jan 23, 2010 10:47 PM EST up reply actions  

I wish we were talking about Church

Ryan Church, the new RF for the Royals.

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by Matt Klaassen on Jan 23, 2010 11:02 PM EST up reply actions  

he is too young

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by buddyball on Jan 23, 2010 11:07 PM EST up reply actions  

Thanks for your insight, BrRoyal

I’ve read a lot of reaction from current and former players, so it’s interesting to go at this story from the other side.

It must have taken Desme a lot of long nights of prayer and contemplation to come to this decision. It’s hard enough for normal, unknown folks, but for a high(ish)-profile athlete to go through the same discernment process with thousands of people questioning his decision must have taken extra graces. Desme is definitely in my prayers.

WTF, self?

by minda33 on Jan 23, 2010 9:03 PM EST reply actions  

At this point, I bet he is really excited and not looking in the rearview mirror.

That initial excitement is so powerful, like when you first start college or when Billy sees some Zebracakes (still my favorite post of all time!). He will eventually look back and wonder, but I doubt he is right now despite the amount of support he may or may not have.

by BrRoyal on Jan 23, 2010 10:44 PM EST up reply actions  

The discernment process....

even before one enters seminary, often takes years. I’ve met people for whom it has taken decades. And in almost every case, there were people in their lives who questioned their calling—this was definitely the case for me as well.

Then again, when I was 8 or 9, I remember telling an aunt that I wanted to be a Biblical prophet when I grew up. So you could make a persuasive case that I was screwed from the beginning. :)

by DarthYoshi on Jan 24, 2010 5:04 PM EST up reply actions  

a's fan here

appreciate that the commentary on RR is far, far more civil than some of the stuff on AN. that site drives me further away from contributing every time i log on.

good to see some level-headed commentary in here. maybe i’ll come around more often.

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by flipgatey3 on Jan 23, 2010 9:26 PM EST reply actions  

Please Do. As

You can see, I’m an old school A’s fan who remembers Charlie Finley all too well. Yes, this site is seemingly a level or two above the discourse I’ve seen on other boards. We have our moments, though.

I used to be an A's fan until they left town and got good.

by philofthenorth on Jan 23, 2010 9:49 PM EST up reply actions  

I think we should revisit the Jacobs trade, just for old times sake

Actually, what were some of the most contentious baseball-related threads that people remember?

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by Matt Klaassen on Jan 23, 2010 11:03 PM EST up reply actions  

You're just asking for it,

I DARE YOU TO CHALLENGE THIS

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by Warden11 on Jan 24, 2010 12:17 AM EST up reply actions  

GLOAD WILL EXPLOOOOOOOOODE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11111111111

Sincerely,
Joel

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by philofthenorth on Jan 24, 2010 2:12 AM EST up reply actions  

was that contentionus or just stupid?

"Things could always be worse." - Buddy Bell

by buddyball on Jan 24, 2010 4:02 PM EST up reply actions  

Yes

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by philofthenorth on Jan 24, 2010 6:00 PM EST up reply actions  

Non-religious reaction to this news

All I wanted to say was, regardless of whether he is considered a great prospect, a good prospect, or merely an average prospect,

I’M SHOCKED

that Desme belonged to some other organization rather than the Royals.

Mr Glass, this is a pro sports team, not a retail store - run it like one!

by loyal2sdad on Jan 25, 2010 12:47 PM EST reply actions  

Also want to say

if I knew the guy, I would be impressed to see him make what had to be an obviously difficult decision to follow his heart, rather than do what others think he should do.

Mr Glass, this is a pro sports team, not a retail store - run it like one!

by loyal2sdad on Jan 25, 2010 12:50 PM EST reply actions  

Besides...

when he gets tired of not having any money, he can just sell the movie rights to his life and attempt a comeback at age 35.

Hollywood would eat that up even without the comeback. Throw in the girl that he’d be leaving behind as well, and you have the emotional tearjerker of the year for women, and the guys will watch it for baseball.

by AxDxMx on Jan 26, 2010 3:08 AM EST up reply actions  

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